"Gang-Raped On Her Wedding Day?"
The first time I read Terry Gobanga's story, I couldn't stop pondering on the weight of pain she went through. It must have been devastating. That morning, before she could say "I Do" to Harry, her abusers had grabbed her into a car and one after another, raped her. She even told them it was her wedding day but that's when they hit her so bad. She tried to defend herself but one of them stabbed her stomach and threw her from a moving vehicle to the road side.
She moved from the pain of being raped, to the pain of being told by the doctor that her womb was affected and she would not be able to bear children. Harry was still very supportive, months after, they still went ahead and got married, but how did she deal with the pain of losing Harry to death exactly 29 days after their wedding?
The accusers were everywhere, they said she had a bad omen hanging over her, they said she killed her husband, a little gossips here and there, those words got into her.
But that's exactly what the accusers do; they intensify the pain.
They are the people who keep reminding you of your grieved state. They tell you, you are the cause of your predicament, they paint a false picture of guilt and try to make you believe it.
The accusers, they are the ones who most times do not care to hear your own side of the story but still go ahead to judge you. They are trying to throw stones into your boat so it could sink. Don't let them!
Don't sit for too long nursing a pain, and memorizing every hurting word someone had said to you.
Those voices that say "You no longer deserve anything good", "you are too broken to be healed", " It was all your fault" those voices that speak guilt, that speak despair, hopelessness, they are the voices of the accusers, #LockOutTheAccuser
Sometimes you may even be your accuser, you will need to #LockOutTheAccuserWithin
Terry said " One day I was sitting on the balcony looking at the birds chirping away and I said: "God, how can you take care of the birds and not me?" In that instant I remembered there are 24 hours a day - sitting in depression with your curtains closed, no-one's going to give you back those 24 hours. Before you know, it's a week, a month, a year wasted away. That was a tough reality."
Today Terry Gobanga is a beautiful mother of two lovely children, she is the author of the book Crawling out of Darkness, she also started an organization called Kara Olmurani, they work with rape survivors offering counselling and support. You can follow @terrygobanga on Instagram. Check out karaolmurani.org
Accusers are everywhere but #LockingOutTheAccuser is one of the first steps to healing and restoration.
#LockOutTheAccuser
#Restored
#BreakingTheCodeOfSilence
#IStandWithTheWholeTeenager
"Gang-Raped On Her Wedding Day?"
The first time I read Terry Gobanga's story, I couldn't stop pondering on the weight of pain she went through. It must have been devastating. That morning, before she could say "I Do" to Harry, her abusers had grabbed her into a car and one after another, raped her. She even told them it was her wedding day but that's when they hit her so bad. She tried to defend herself but one of them stabbed her stomach and threw her from a moving vehicle to the road side.
She moved from the pain of being raped, to the pain of being told by the doctor that her womb was affected and she would not be able to bear children. Harry was still very supportive, months after, they still went ahead and got married, but how did she deal with the pain of losing Harry to death exactly 29 days after their wedding?
The accusers were everywhere, they said she had a bad omen hanging over her, they said she killed her husband, a little gossips here and there, those words got into her.
But that's exactly what the accusers do; they intensify the pain.
They are the people who keep reminding you of your grieved state. They tell you, you are the cause of your predicament, they paint a false picture of guilt and try to make you believe it.
The accusers, they are the ones who most times do not care to hear your own side of the story but still go ahead to judge you. They are trying to throw stones into your boat so it could sink. Don't let them!
Don't sit for too long nursing a pain, and memorizing every hurting word someone had said to you.
Those voices that say "You no longer deserve anything good", "you are too broken to be healed", " It was all your fault" those voices that speak guilt, that speak despair, hopelessness, they are the voices of the accusers, #LockOutTheAccuser
Sometimes you may even be your accuser, you will need to #LockOutTheAccuserWithin
Terry said " One day I was sitting on the balcony looking at the birds chirping away and I said: "God, how can you take care of the birds and not me?" In that instant I remembered there are 24 hours a day - sitting in depression with your curtains closed, no-one's going to give you back those 24 hours. Before you know, it's a week, a month, a year wasted away. That was a tough reality."
Today Terry Gobanga is a beautiful mother of two lovely children, she is the author of the book Crawling out of Darkness, she also started an organization called Kara Olmurani, they work with rape survivors offering counselling and support. You can follow @terrygobanga on Instagram. Check out karaolmurani.org
Accusers are everywhere but #LockingOutTheAccuser is one of the first steps to healing and restoration.
#LockOutTheAccuser
#Restored
#BreakingTheCodeOfSilence
#IStandWithTheWholeTeenager
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